Have you ever noticed that nobody ever posts, “I cried myself to sleep last night” as their Facebook status? And if they did, some people’s first thought would be, “what a loser.”
But isn’t THAT real life sometimes?
We all do it. We meticulously pick and choose little slivers of our lives, then edit, filter and post. Anything to accentuate the neat and clean parts of our lives ; the only parts we are comfortable with letting others see. It’s no secret that we’ve become professionals at embellishing our lives when it comes to what we choose to present to the watching world.
Facebook and other forms of social media have made it easier than ever to give a very wide audience, tiny peeks into our perfectly constructed lives. We all love to post pictures and status updates about the amazing vacation we just went on, or the flowers our husband surprised us with, and how perfect and wonderful our children are. And as good and real as all of those good things can be at times, WHAT IF the dirty, sad, messy, complicated parts of our lives could be uncovered and found to be of just as much value.
I’ve often imagined how FREEing that would be to me, and so many others.
It’s human nature to care way too much what others think or believe about us. And there is a healthy balance to be found. But the “caring too much” is something that I’ve been asking God to begin to strip away from my life. Because the truth is, it’s exhausting. And in case you haven’t already found out for yourself, it just becomes more and more impossible to meet the expectations we set for our own lives when we let what we want others to think about us or what kind of perfect, neat life we want to convince the world we have.
Jesus is showing me that He didn’t come for the clean people; the ones who have it all together. Nor did He come for the well, He came for those who are sick. He didn’t come for the perfect lives, with perfect marriages. NO, he came for the ones that were bleeding, broken and dying.
He came for US. You and I. The ones who don’t always have it all together, but desperately wish we did. The ones who’ve made huge messes of things, and realized nothing we could ever do could repair what’s been lost or broken.
Jesus came to free us.
From so many things.
From sin.
Shame.
Customs of our culture.
Bondage.
Religious ideologies.
From living for the approval of men.
And yes, even from the quest for perfection.
Sometimes life seems more like we are all desperately running, at break neck speed to create a perfect and neatly constructed life; presented to the watching world in a beautifully polished, gold picture frame. When Jesus stands patiently and kindly at the foot of the cross, ready and waiting for us to come dragging the mess of our imperfect, broken lives, and lay them down.
If your whole life feels about as trashed as me and my house look today; then this Jesus I speak of, came for you.
We are the ones His heart is after.
When Jesus heard this, he told them, “Healthy people don’t need a doctor–sick people do. I have come to call not those who think they are righteous, but those who know they are sinners.” ~Mark 2:17
Julie Armendariz said:
Rachel, thanks- I loved this! A little transparency can be a great encouragement!!!
Anne Fields said:
Rachel – God has given you a wonderful gift with words . .
BethanyT said:
beautiful words – full of much needed truth. i love reading about other women who are embracing their messiness with one hand & jesus with the other. {popped over from a link on friends fb, ironically 😉 }
randi :) said:
you got it, girl!
and just on a side note – whenever I post my “real” posts on facebook – to be transparent – to share my life – to lower the bar for others – to just be real…… there’s always some nasty facebook “friend” right there to condemn me for not being thankful enough, cheerful enough, joyful enough…..
it makes you want to crawl back in and fake it….. yet I refuse to do it! it just goes to show, no matter what you do, how you do it, who you are… there will ALWAYS be a critic (or 20) . you’ll never get 100% approval from man… but praise Jesus we have approval from the One who matters! because of His one sacrifice! 🙂
God bless ya girl. ENjoy the blessings, soak up the great days… and have grace for yourself & take comfort from Him on the bad ones.
candress said:
Thanks Rachel. BTW, I have cried more in this past 9 months than I have in the past 35 years combined….. and I am not finished yet.
Rachel said:
….and that is okay to admit. Love and miss you.